The Parent’s Quick Assessment Guide
Free Parent Education Guide
By Dr. Kathleen Schuster, Functional Airway Dentist
The Question Every Parent Needs to Ask
Before your child gets labeled with ADHD and put on medication, there’s one critical question most doctors never ask:
“How is your child sleeping?”
Here’s what the research shows: Children with sleep-disordered breathing often present with symptoms identical to ADHD. But here’s the kicker – treating the sleep and breathing issues can eliminate the “ADHD” symptoms entirely.
The Stanford Study: Research shows a “medium to strong relationship” between sleep problems and ADHD symptoms. Even more importantly, ADHD symptoms improved after treating breathing issues in multiple studies involving 529 children.
The researcher’s conclusion: “Treatment of sleep-disordered breathing should be considered BEFORE medicating ADHD symptoms.”
The Exhausted Child Who Looks Hyperactive What’s Really Happening:
When children can’t breathe properly at night:
- They don’t get deep sleep (constantly struggling to breathe)
- Their bodies pump adrenaline to keep them awake and alert
- They appear hyperactive (but it’s actually exhaustion masquerading as energy)
- They can’t focus (overtired brains can’t concentrate)
- Everything feels overwhelming (exhausted nervous systems can’t regulate emotions)
Think of it like this: Your child is running on coffee all day because their body knows they didn’t get real rest the night before.
The 10-Question Sleep vs. ADHD Assessment Sleep Quality Indicators:
- How does your child wake up in the morning?
- [ ] Refreshed and alert within 15 minutes
- [ ] Groggy but manageable with some encouragement
- [ ] Extremely difficult to wake, grumpy, takes 30+ minutes to be functional
2. What does their sleep look like?
- [ ] Sleeps quietly, stays in relatively same position
- [ ] Some movement and occasional snoring
- [ ] Restless, frequent position changes, mouth breathing, snoring
3. How do they breathe during the day?
- [ ] Nose breathing most of the time, lips together at rest
- [ ] Mix of nose and mouth breathing, especially during activity
- [ ] Frequent mouth breathing, lips often apart at rest
Behavioral Pattern Indicators:
- When is their behavior worst?
- [ ] Consistent throughout the day
- [ ] Worse when hungry or overstimulated
- [ ] Terrible in the morning, crashes hard in afternoon/evening
5. How do they respond to extra sleep?
- [ ] No significant difference in behavior
- [ ] Slightly better with more sleep
- [ ] Dramatically better behavior when they sleep in or get extra rest
6. What happens during allergy season?
- [ ] No change in behavior
- [ ] Minor increase in irritability
- [ ] Significant worsening of attention and behavior issues
Physical Signs:
- What do you notice about their appearance?
- [ ] Alert eyes, good color
- [ ] Occasional dark circles, tired appearance some days
- [ ] Persistent dark circles under eyes, pale or tired-looking
8. How’s their appetite and eating?
- [ ] Good appetite, eats variety of foods well
- [ ] Okay appetite, some pickiness
- [ ] C. Poor appetite in morning, very picky with textures, messy eating
9. How do they handle physical activity?
- [ ] Good endurance, breathes easily during exercise
- [ ] Average endurance, gets winded appropriately
- [ ] Poor endurance, mouth breathing during activity, frequent water breaks
Academic/Focus Patterns:
- How does their focus vary?
- [ ] Relatively consistent attention span for their age
- [ ] Some variation depending on interest level
- [ ] Extreme variation – can hyperfocus on preferred activities but can’t attend to schoolwork
Scoring Your Assessment
Mostly A’s: True ADHD More Likely
Your child’s symptoms may represent genuine ADHD that would benefit from traditional interventions. However, it’s still worth having sleep quality evaluated as part of a comprehensive assessment.
Mostly B’s: Mixed Picture
Your child likely has some sleep/breathing issues contributing to attention problems. Address sleep quality first – you may see significant improvement in focus and behavior.
Mostly C’s: Sleep-Disordered Breathing Highly Likely
Your child’s “ADHD” symptoms are very likely related to poor sleep quality from breathing issues. This should be evaluated and treated BEFORE considering ADHD medication.
The Tell-Tale Signs of Sleep Exhaustion The Morning Struggle:
Sleep exhaustion: Child is extremely difficult to wake, grumpy for 30+ minutes, complains of being tired despite “enough” sleep hours
True ADHD: Child may have trouble with morning routine organization but wakes up relatively alert
The Energy Paradox:
Sleep exhaustion: “Tired but wired” – appears hyperactive but crashes hard when they finally stop moving
True ADHD: More consistent energy levels, hyperactivity doesn’t correlate with exhaustion
The Focus Pattern:
Sleep exhaustion: Can focus well on highly preferred activities (video games, building projects) but struggles with anything requiring sustained mental effort
True ADHD: Difficulty with focus across all activities, including preferred ones
The Behavior Timing:
Sleep exhaustion: Worst behavior in mornings and late afternoons/evenings when exhaustion peaks
True ADHD: More consistent behavioral challenges throughout the day
The Physical Clues Doctors Often Miss Breathing Red Flags:
- Mouth breathing during concentration or physical activity
- Noisy breathing, snoring, or gasping during sleep
- Frequent congestion or throat clearing
- Dark circles under eyes (“allergic shiners”)
Sleep Position Clues:
- Sleeping with head tilted back (trying to open airway)
- Frequent position changes during night
- Sleeping propped up or in unusual positions
- Falling asleep in car/anywhere when sitting still
Eating & Development Signs:
- Picky eating, especially avoiding textures that require chewing
- Slow eating or difficulty chewing efficiently
- Narrow facial development or crowded teeth
- Speech delays or unclear articulation
Age-Specific Warning Signs Ages 3-5: Early Warning System
- Difficulty transitioning from naps but clearly exhausted
- Extreme meltdowns that seem disproportionate
- Speech delays or unclear speech
- Very picky eating, prefers soft/processed foods
- Frequent respiratory infections
Ages 6-8: School Struggles Begin
- Teacher reports attention issues that vary day to day
- Homework battles that seem excessive for the child’s intelligence
- Social difficulties due to emotional dysregulation
- Academic performance below obvious potential
- Frequent illness affecting school attendance
Ages 9-12: The Crisis Point
- Academic struggles becoming serious despite interventions
- Social problems affecting friendships and self-esteem
- Extreme emotional reactions to everyday stressors
- Physical symptoms: headaches, stomachaches, fatigue
- Behavioral issues affecting family harmony
The Research That Changes Everything What Studies Show:
- 529 children studied across 12 research projects
- ADHD symptoms improved after treating sleep-disordered breathing
- Academic performance increased when breathing issues were addressed
- Behavioral improvements often seen within weeks of treatment
The Connection Explained:
Poor sleep from breathing issues creates:
- Decreased prefrontal cortex function (executive skills)
- Increased cortisol and adrenaline (hyperactivity)
- Impaired memory consolidation (learning difficulties)
- Dysregulated emotional centers (behavioral problems)
It’s not that your child is “bad” or “lazy” – their brain literally can’t function optimally when it’s not getting restorative sleep.
Questions to Ask Before Medication For Your Pediatrician:
- “Has anyone evaluated my child’s sleep quality and breathing patterns?”
- “Could structural airway issues be contributing to these behaviors?”
- “What would happen if we addressed sleep problems first?”
- “Can we get a sleep study before starting medication?”
For Yourself:
- “Do I notice patterns between my child’s sleep and behavior?”
- “Are there physical signs suggesting breathing problems?”
- “Has anyone looked at the whole picture, not just the symptoms?”
- “Am I comfortable medicating without addressing potential root causes?”
The 30-Day Sleep Optimization Trial Before considering medication, try this:
Week 1: Environmental Optimization
- Remove allergens from bedroom (dust, pets, fragrances)
- Use air purifier in child’s room
- Ensure room temperature 65-68°F
- Establish consistent bedtime routine
Week 2: Breathing Support
- Try saline nasal rinse before bed
- Use humidifier if air is dry
- Elevate head of bed slightly
- Practice gentle nose breathing exercises
Week 3: Professional Evaluation
- Schedule airway-focused dental evaluation
- Consider ENT consultation for breathing assessment
- Document sleep patterns and behavior changes
- Take photos/videos of sleep positions and breathing
Week 4: Comprehensive Assessment
- Evaluate behavior improvements from sleep optimization
- Consider sleep study if breathing issues suspected
- Plan next steps based on what you’ve learned
- Make informed decisions about further interventions
Success Stories That Give Hope Case 1: “ADHD” That Wasn’t
8-year-old boy, struggling in school, medication recommended
- Discovery: Severe mouth breathing disrupting sleep quality
- Intervention: Airway expansion + breathing retraining
- Result: Focus and behavior improved dramatically, no medication needed
Case 2: The Homework Battles
7-year-old girl, 2-hour homework sessions, constant tears
- Discovery: Sleep apnea from enlarged adenoids
- Intervention: Orthodontic expansion shrunk adenoids naturally
- Result: Homework completed in 30 minutes, happy child returned
Case 3: The Emotional Rollercoaster
9-year-old boy, extreme emotional reactions, family stress
- Discovery: Chronic mouth breathing creating sleep deprivation
- Intervention: Comprehensive airway treatment
- Result: Stable emotions, improved family relationships
Red Flags: When Sleep Issues Are Likely Immediate Evaluation Needed If:
- Child stops breathing during sleep (even briefly)
- Loud snoring every night
- Extreme difficulty waking despite adequate sleep hours
- Witnessed gasping or choking during sleep
- Blue lips or fingernails during sleep
Professional Assessment Recommended If:
- Multiple signs from this assessment point to sleep issues
- ADHD symptoms worsen during allergy season
- Dramatic behavior differences between well-rested and tired days
- Physical signs of breathing problems present
- Family history of sleep apnea or breathing issues
The Bottom Line
Your child’s “ADHD” symptoms might be their brain’s response to chronic sleep deprivation.
Before accepting that your bright, wonderful child needs daily medication to function, make sure someone has evaluated whether they’re getting quality, restorative sleep.
The good news: Sleep and breathing issues are often very treatable, especially when caught during childhood growth periods.
The reality: Many children are being medicated for symptoms that could be resolved by addressing the root cause.
Your role: Be your child’s advocate. Ask the hard questions. Trust your instincts if something doesn’t feel right.
Ready to Get Answers?
This assessment gives you the foundation to understand what to look for, but getting real answers requires working with providers who understand the sleep-behavior connection.
Want the complete roadmap for navigating ADHD vs. sleep issues?
Get “The Complete ADHD vs. Sleep Breathing Guide” – your comprehensive resource for: ✅ Detailed provider vetting strategies
✅ Professional sleep assessment options
✅ Breathing intervention protocols by age
✅ School accommodation strategies
✅ Medication alternatives and coordination
✅ Long-term success planning
Because your child deserves to reach their full potential – naturally.
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Important Disclaimer: This guide is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. ADHD is a real condition that sometimes requires medication. Never discontinue prescribed medications without consulting your healthcare provider.
This assessment tool cannot replace professional evaluation but can help you ask better questions and advocate for comprehensive care.
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